It’s after 11pm. My wife and I just finished talking. An argument began at 5pm this afternoon. Seriously.
I’m wiped. I have nothing left to say. We have agreed that we need to practice a better method of argument. She and her mom are able to talk through things much more effectively than she and I do. Before you go thinking that it’s because I’m a man, just stop. That’s not it. It’s because we haven’t established the same level of trust.
You’d think that a husband and wife would trust each other if they’re willing to commit their entire lives to each other. Not so. Trust is earned and given carefully. It is easily lost and difficult to regain. Marriage brings out the passionate stuff in our lives that can break a relationship if not handled well. We have not handled most of our arguments well, and we’ve consequently set our relationship on the path of creating a pattern. And patterns are difficult to break.
Luckily, we were both exhausted, and willing to finally cut to the chase. We have further to go, but we’ve taken an important step.
Now if I can only get her to enjoy life enough that the weekend isn’t pressured by the need to be spectacularly significant in order to justify its existence.
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